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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Discovery doesn’t equal recovery. Realizing how we sabotaged our marriages doesn’t bring our former partners back to us. (Published 3/25/2014)


My husband and I divorced in 2008. I was the spouse who filed. I am feeling increasing despair and sadness as time passes. I am blaming myself for leaving when I loved my ex-husband. I had unknown past baggage from childhood abuse that I now know affected my ability to be in the marriage. Now that I know all this, I can't make peace with the decision I made to leave. I didn't free myself from problems but instead I found out the source. My life is 99.9 % worse since the divorce. Do you have any advice for someone grieving a divorce that they initiated and regret?

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