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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Alcohol and drugs only cover up the pain, they don't lead you to feeling better after a loss. (Published 6/23/2015)


Will I ever get past the death of my husband? He died two and ½ years ago. He was my second husband and the love of my life. I sold our home and moved to another location. I felt better at first, but now the grief is back. I cry almost everyday. I am reliving all the things we did together. I even have bouts of resentment for some of the things he did. I feel guilty about this. I just want to stop having these thoughts. I was taking anxiety medication but stopped because I felt I was getting addicted. I have episodes of drinking to stop the pain. That only makes me worse. I’m also resenting my children for not being here for me. I feel let down by everybody. I miss him more than I ever thought I could miss someone. I’m so sick of this grief and loneliness. What to do?

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